William Adamsky - MRH Faculty
Why the "Talking Stage" is Corrupting Teen Relationships
by Sasha S.
Relationships are still a thing, but there has been a change that has taken over the realm of dating- many know this as “talking”. Talking is pretty well known within the teen dating world, and this refers to the talking stage of a relationship, which is the first step into a relationship, but instead of moving forward many stay stuck in this stage and never seem to find a way to move forward.
With Valentine's Day just right around the corner people are preparing to celebrate this holiday with their significant other, but for others who are stuck in the talking phase this isn’t necessarily the case. There seems to be a commonality within all these people; talking allows teens to feel involved with someone but never have to really commit, so there’s less pressure to be obligated to an individual person. So in terms of Valentine's Day there isn’t any expectation to get the person you’re talking to things like flowers or chocolates.
Believe it or not, prior to just talking people were actually putting in the effort and actually trying to build relationships. Going on dates is not really a thing you hear teens doing, unless they’re actually in a committed relationship, but even then teens putting effort into dates is very rare. Before you would go out to eat and maybe see a movie, now you just hangout which means going out somewhere with a bunch of friends.
Traditional dating values are slowly disappearing. According to BestLife, “One thing that makes modern dating so different from how it was back in the day is that there really aren't that many set-in-stone rules”. Thinking about this now many people will cringe at the idea of the person they’re talking to asking their parents' approval to go out on a date. If people were implementing more traditional values into their dating lives like picking your date up at their house and not kissing on the first date, more people will be able to build a meaningful relationship rather than being stuck in the endless void of talking.
Talking also allows people to pursue multiple people at once, because there isn’t any commitment you can talk to as many people as you like. The problem with this is there’s no loyalty and it’s just an endless cycle of talking.
All in all there is no point in talking and relationships are dying out. The need to put in effort has diminished and values have disappeared leading romance to become a thing of the past.